I am convinced that parents are a thing of the past.
Parenting is hard. It is a non-stop 24/7 job that involves physical, emotional, and mental work. If done correctly, parenting does not stop on date nights, while your at work, while your kids are at school, when your ex has them for the weekend, or while you are busy on social media, video games, or even reading a book. A parent, whether on duty or on call, is always a parent. It is a parent’s job to take care of their child from conception on. Good parenting involves making sure that all basic needs are met (food, drinks, cleanliness etc) but also that emotional and social needs are met. It is the parent who is responsible for their child feeling loved and knowing how to love. It is the parent who is responsible for their child knowing right from wrong, knowing how to treat and interact with others, how to behave and present themselves to others, how to participate and pull their weight in our society.
Whatever the reason, (laziness, a single mom stretched too thin, the love of money, death of a parent, split parents with a lack of communication, addictions etc) involved parenting has become a rarity. This leaves children to raise themselves in a horrible culture of women who don’t respect themselves, glamorized violence, disrespect for others, vulgar language etc. When this is all they see it becomes all they know. It becomes who they are.
I live about 30 miles from Duncan, Oklahoma which is where the Australian baseball player, Christopher Lane, was killed by “bored teenagers.” There are vines and tweets and photos popping up everywhere of these kids expressing hate and showing off guns and money prior to the murder. Where were their parents? The father of the 15 yr old made the statement that he knew where his son was 95% of the time. I have a hard time believing that. I also have a hard time believing that he did not know how his son is or how his son thinks or what his son was capable of. It is the parent’s job to know their child, to correct their child’s bad behavior, and to mold their child into the man or woman they need to be.
Another very obvious case of parenting gone wrong is the biggest topic in social media right now, Miley Cyrus. My husband I don’t usually watch the VMAs but we DVRed it this time so that I could watch the NSYNC reunion. As we were fast forwarding through the program we stopped here and there to watch parts of various perfomances. Miley’s was beyond awful and once again I found myself asking “Where are her parents?!?” Yes, I understand that she is 20 years old and can do as she pleases. However, this kind of behavior and lack of self respect does not develop over night. It is a parent’s job to instill lasting moral values in their child to protect them from today’s corrupted culture. I also want to state again that parenting never stops! I am 27, married, and have three children of my own but if I were to even consider behaving in that manner both of my parents, as well as my step mom and in-laws would be in parent mode in a heart beat.
I also have to say that I am utterly disgusted with our television networks these days. MTV’s target audience is age 12-34 and this is what they show. Is this what we want our children growing up to? What we want them thinking is normal? I won’t even get into Kanye thinking he is Jesus. That is another post entirely. Right now my children are still young and I am able to keep my TVs on Disney Jr but as they get older these are the things I will have to battle. But who are the television networks to worry about the future of our country’s youth as long as they are getting their money right now?