Stay At Home Mom Dynamic

You always hear about how stay at home moms do nothing but lay on the couch all day or how being a stay at home mom is the hardest job or how working moms do everything a stay at home mom does and more.

Being a stay at home mom for 4.5 years now I have to say that I agree with every one of those statements . . . to a certain extent. Want to know why? Because every mom (whether they work inside the home, outside the home, or both) is different and has a different dynamic!

I have a friend who is a working mom but she is blessed with the ability to bring her son to work with her every day. Her husband is a firefighter on a department that works 48 hour shifts (and if you know a firefighter you know that when they are not on shift they are always busy working side projects) so she has her son most of the time. So in her case, she works outside of the home but still has the responsibility of primary care of her son and home like a stay at home mom.

I am a stay at home mom with three little ones at home full time but also work from home doing photography and spend a lot of time editing and advertising. I also handle all of the household things like cleaning and bills and laundry and caring for the kids and chauffeuring them on my own since my husband works a second job on his days off from the fire dept and is gone 90+ hours a week.

Another friend of mine is a stay at home mom with one in school and one at home. Her husband’s job is a normal M-F job so he shares in much of the household chores and chauffeuring.

Another friend has two young children but works a very demanding job and her husband has to travel for work so her little ones are in daycare during the day.

Another has split custody with her ex husband so her daughter spends time between her house, her ex’s house, and daycare.

I could go on and on but the point is . . .

Are any of us better moms than the other? NO! We are all hard working, loving, dedicated moms handling our own mommy dynamic the best we can! Comparing us to each other would be crazy because we all have different lives and responsibilities! So every one of those statements, while true to a certain extent at certain times, is false because no two moms are alike!

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I Am Woman Wednesday – Reshaping The Mom Bod Progress

What better way to start I Am Woman Wednesday than with a look back at how far I have come in a year?!?

We took family pictures on Easter and it had me browsing back through past photos. I stumbled across our first family pictures after my son was born (he was about 10 weeks old). They were taken almost exactly a year ago so I had to do a side by side. Keep in mind that I wasn’t even 3 months postpartum yet and that my progress has been a combination of diet and exercise along with 14 months of breastfeeding and now three weeks of plexus. Just seeing the progress has given me new motivation to keep going and get to my goal body so I had to share! Even when you think you aren’t getting anywhere . . . you are!

 

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And because I Am Woman Wednesday is about being a strong woman, I am coming back from an injury this week and feel super excited to say that I have gotten 3 miles in this week so far after two weeks of taking it easy! My goal is to do my next 5k (in less than two weeks) in 30 minutes so I am working on getting a 10 min mile down. Yesterday I was able to do a mile in 11 min 30 sec on the treadmill so I will keep working hard and pushing for it!